When Loyalty Holds You Back at Work

Loyalty is one of those values we all admire. It shows dedication, care, and integrity—a willingness to stick things out through thick and thin. But what happens when loyalty starts to hold you back, keeping you in a situation where you're no longer thriving?

This topic has come up a lot in my coaching sessions recently. Many of my clients have described staying in roles out of loyalty, even when those roles no longer align with their happiness or goals.

One client shared, “They took a chance on me when no one else would. How could I leave now?”

That sense of obligation felt like a heavy weight, keeping her in a role that had become unchallenging and unfulfilling. While she admired her employer and appreciated the opportunities she’d been given, staying was beginning to impact her well-being.

Another client used a different analogy, comparing their role to a relationship they stayed in “for the kids.” She didn’t want to disappoint her team or desert projects she’d poured years into. And yet, deep down, she knew she wasn’t thriving anymore.

Do you see yourself in these experiences? If so, it’s worth taking a closer look at how loyalty might be influencing your decisions.

Loyalty, while beautiful, can sometimes get tangled with guilt or a fear of letting others down. It’s okay to reexamine what loyalty means to you—and whether it makes sense to stay where you are. You deserve growth, excitement, and fulfillment in your work.

If this feels familiar, take a few moments to pause and reflect. Journaling is a great tool for working through these emotions. Here are some questions to guide your thoughts:

• Why do I feel loyal to this employer?

• How has this job shaped or supported me, and how do I feel about leaving it behind?

• Does my current role align with my values and long-term goals?

• What might I gain by exploring new opportunities?

• Am I prioritizing my personal growth and happiness in this role?

Your answers to these questions might lead you to some clarity—or at least offer a starting point for deeper reflection.

It’s important to remember that leaving doesn’t mean you’re disloyal. You can hold gratitude and respect for what your job has given you while acknowledging when it’s time to move on. Loyalty doesn’t have to be the thing that stops you from stepping toward something better for your future.

Ultimately, your happiness and growth matter just as much as the value you’ve brought to your current role. Honour what you’ve built, but don’t forget to honour yourself, too.

Taking steps toward something new can feel daunting, but it’s also an incredible opportunity—a chance to create a role and life that align beautifully with who you are and where you want to go. Balance your loyalty with the respect and care you deserve to give yourself.

You’re allowed to create a future that excites you. Don’t be afraid to make space for it. If you need support, I'm here to help.

Until next time,